LIFE – A BITCH THAT HATES DOGMATISM

Falsely believing myself to be rational individual (ironically enough, I also know I am not), I have always used the “cause and effect” logic to explain things to myself and to a number of other people who are mostly not willing to listen!

One of them is “Not To Be Scared” as it can only make things worse. Be it the JEE or CAT aspirants who ruin their chances of getting through by panicking at the last moment thinking “what if I don’t get though?” or be it those in romantic relationships whose fear of messing the relationship (dumpophobia) leads them into getting dumped as they became too possessive for their lovers to handle.

What I have come to understand is that this phenomenon transcends logic and ventures far into something subconscious or luck or whichever might be the right way to define it. Somehow we end up getting precisely the things we did not want even when we see no logical connection on how we ended up getting them.

I will explain this with a few examples, all not mine but observed and heard while discussing the same:

1. Desire/Fear: I do not want to work in South India

Preventive Action: I ran away from Infosys in Hyderabad in two months flat.

Irony: Working for 15 months in Chennai while media discussions about Telengana mention it being more a part of North India than South!

How I got there: Delhi to Kolkata (MBA) to Mumbai (Job) to Chennai (Transfer)

Logical Connection: None that I can see!

2. Desire/Fear: I do not want my son to marry someone from UP. Also, I do not want my son to marry outside our caste (especially not non-veg eating communities)

Irony: My son married a Kayastha from UP.

Logical Connection: When has love ever been logical? :P

3. Desire/Fear: I will never marry a Scorpio. I will never marry a Tam Brahm.

Irony: Happily Married to a Scorpio Tam Brahm

Logical Connection: Again, when has love ever been logical? :P

4. Desire/Fear: Will never work in XYZ company

Irony: Moving to the same

How I got there: Got a worse job + location combo that the XYZ seems like a saner choice right now.

Logical Connection: Nil

I shall stop at 4 for now.

Conclusion: Life’s a bitch that hates dogmatism!

So, be open to whatever shit is thrown at you.

Smile! It could have been worse! It can get worse! It WILL get worse if you keep on fretting about it!

P.S. – Dogmatism might not be the exact word but I loved the sound of it while calling life a bitch J